The world demands much of us as not only women, but mothers. 

As women we are taught how to take care of others first and put ourselves last. Did you know that there are not only wage gaps between genders but pleasure gaps? We are so used to sacrificing ourselves – our jobs- and our pleasure to make those around us happy.

This is not a coincidence either. As women we have been raised not to be emotional; silently carry the weight of your emotions and compact them down. To raise your voice and ask for help sounds like social suicide. That’s exactly how your brain perceives it.

In Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book Burnout: The Secret To Unlocking Stress Cycles they identify this as Human Giver Syndrome:

“HSG – the contagious belief that you have a moral obligation to give every drop of your humanity in support of others, no matter the cost to you.”

It is no wonder why we feel deprived, depressed, devastated, resentful overwhelmed and exhausted on the brink of Burn Out.

My Approach

With a holistic approach and a splash of science you will go from Exhausted 🔜 Even 🔜 Elated.

Sounds dreamy, almost impossible, I know.

Here’s the deal. Life has stressors, those things going on outside of you that you can’t control – to the thoughts about you that are not nice.

These stressors can cause us stress- a natural reaction that leaks not so good chemicals into our bodies- that we need to learn how to release. Or they build up and break us down.

Literally.

Together we will identify the ones that are breaking you down and why. Maybe it’s a divorce. Maybe your kids aren’t excelling in their school. Maybe you want a promotion but don’t know how to ask for it.

I will show you WHAT you are experiencing in these moments. Think of a milk carton. Inside the carton is the milk which in this case is the contents of your brain- your thoughts. On the outside of the carton is the label describing what’s inside the carton. Low fat, organic 16 oz expiration.

I can see all that’s going on on the outside, unlike you because you are on the inside. Make sense?

When we are in our experience, we can’t see what we are creating for ourselves.

I will teach you how. I will also teach you a scientifically proven method to process your emotions so that you don’t get stuck in the tunnel.

That’s just the beginning. What you are going to learn will change the way you show up in the world.

Trust me, there is a version of you waiting to present herself and she’s just 12 weeks away.

Imagine it right now. In 12 weeks you wake up and the problems you have right now or no longer problems.

It’s possible.

I know because I’ve done this work and I’m a changed woman.

Thinking

Feeling

Action

Results

why work with me

As a single working mom, twice divorced and always an entrepreneur it seemed like a given that my life would always be stress to the max.

Though I didn’t have to deal with an ex the way a lot of my clients have (the father of my children passed away when they were 4 & 7 while my second husband left after our divorce and never spoke to me again. I had an affair. I believe if I had knew the thought model and a few other tools that I’ve learned as a coach, I never would have reached that point. I also believe that rock bottom led me to the tools and here we are.) I did deal with just about every other stressor along with emotional insecurity you can imagine.

Despite what it looked like from the outside, I wasn’t your ‘cool’ mom and I spent most of motherhood feeling like an outsider. The other moms seemed to know exactly what they were doing, while I felt bombarded by the daily ins and outs, overwhelmed that it would never end.

I approached parenting from a place of fear, driven by the need to protect my children. I wanted to be the parent I didn’t have. But as bad things would inevitably happened, I would take it personally as proof of my parenting failure. I thought: “Why does this keep happening?” and “This is so hard. I feel so alone- I can’t do this.”

“This” plus date, run a business, be a friend, present myself as having it together, train for marathons, manage our finances, save for my future AND get dinner on the table.

Once I discovered coaching, I worked to develop the critical skills necessary to separate my self-worth from my children’s life choices and the worlds opinion of me not only as a mother, but a woman.

I practiced holding the understanding that life is 50% good and 50% bad Meaning that I’m going watch my kids and personally experience feelings heartache, disappointment, rejection AND love, accomplishment and reward. That I’m here for both.

I worked to let go of my expectations that my children needed to be a certain way or do certain things for me to be happy. Instead, I’ve let them grow into who they are and worked on my judgments that I may have. That doesn’t mean they got to do whatever they wanted.

I discovered the real meaning of boundaries and starting enforcing rules from a place of neutrality creating a much more peaceful experience when those rules were broken.

And that is just with “The Model” that I’ve been trained to not only use on myself daily, but teach you how to use and apply to your life. It’s the greatest game changer of all time.