How often do you find yourself replaying old flings in your head, romanticizing the pain they caused? I used to do this all the time. There was nothing healthy about one of my relationships in particular, but it preoccupied my mind for years. Reflecting on this got me thinking, what is it about love that has so many of us feeling pain instead?
We find ourselves in relationships feeling trapped and longing for something else until it’s over, and then longing for what was. We attach ourselves to people who aren’t available, holding out hope because they are the one and we can’t control who we love. We spend years in anguish over love. How is this possible? What is going on that in the name of love we feel so horrible?
Renegades, if any of this resonates with you, you need to hear today’s episode. I’m talking about the chemical of desire, the one that has us reeling in anguish over romances mistaken for true love. It’s one thing to love the chase and the build-up, but it’s a whole other thing to love what you have in the present. I’m sharing how you can enjoy the juicy, intoxicating feeling of chemistry without throwing yourself into a heartbroken dead-end role. You may be addicted to love, but I’ll show you how to ditch and delete the thoughts that are keeping you addicted.
What You Will Discover:
- My story of romanticizing a toxic past relationship.
- Why we get hooked on the experience of love.
- Why dopamine has you constantly wanting things that are out of reach.
- How the desire to want is part of our human design.
- How to watch your impulses instead of responding to them.
- Why you need to be firm on your priorities, values, and boundaries.
- The Molecule of More by Daniel Z. Lieberman