Last week, I shared why setting boundaries is so important and why doing so is actually an act of self-love. This week in Part Deux, I’m diving deeper into why we need to set boundaries in dating and in our relationships with others. One thing I hear from so many of you is that you don’t want to set a boundary and hurt someone’s feelings. But what about your feelings?
What if you stopped worrying so much about how others felt and more about how you felt? When we shift the focus onto ourselves, we shift the responsibility. And when you start prioritizing treating yourself with love, you stop tolerating others treating you without it. I’m telling you, renegades, there is a dating world that exists where you can stay connected to the present without putting yourself second.
In today’s episode, I’m shining some light on why our brains interpret boundary setting as scary and what happens in your dating life and relationships when you set them. It is possible to date without disconnecting from yourself and your needs. What would happen is you started practicing saying “no” and questioning why you’re not getting the results you want? Amazing things. And it all starts with setting boundaries and loving yourself first.
So go big or go home, renegades. Boundaries, integrity, and generosity.
What You Will Discover:
- Why it’s easier to have external problems than internal ones.
- How a lack of boundaries leads to people-pleasing behavior.
- Why you need to embrace the failure that comes with boundary setting.
- Why so many people date like their lives depend on it.
- How to date without putting yourself second.
- Why practicing integrity is all about the long game.
- Ep #34: Don’t Be Cool. Set Boundaries.
- Brene Brown and Russell Brand Interview
- Boundaries by Henry Cloud
- Martha Beck