When we think about boundaries, most often we think about ones that keep other people out and away, so that they can’t intrude. And I completely believe that having healthy boundaries for others is necessary. But I also think that having boundaries in place for how we conduct ourselves with ourselves is equally important, if not more.
We spend so much time trying to protect ourselves from others that we neglect to place boundaries around our own thinking and personal behavior. But doing so would protect us from self-inflicted emotional pain and sabotage. Sometimes we try so hard to be cool, to be the girl that can casually talk about the other girls our partner is sleeping with etc, even though that hurts our essential selves.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about why setting personal boundaries are so important. Not to keep others out, but to be aware of how you are treating yourself. Setting these types of boundaries is an act of self-love, renegades. I’m sharing why being “cool” isn’t cool to your essential self and how you can become aware of where you need to put some boundaries.
Right now, you’re both the victim and the villain, but through inquiring, seeking, and revealing, you can protect you from yourself.
What You Will Discover:
- Why personal boundaries are as important as boundaries for other people.
- What terms of engagement are and how they allow you to prioritize your boundaries.
- What self-harm is in the context of dating and boundary work.
- Why being cool to your social self isn’t actually being cool to you.
- That putting boundaries in place is an act of self-love.
- A guided exercise of the Seek, Inquire, Reveal process.