How many of you spend time looking back at your previous relationships? I mean really looking back at you in those relationships. I’ve spent a fair amount of time in these streets, looking back at the way I used to date. And let me tell you renegades, “fail” is my second favorite F word. I’m a big believer that failures are full of rich data that you can learn from.
Your brain doesn’t care if something feels good or bad. What it cares about is being right. That the stories and beliefs you tell yourself are proven right. And when you tell yourself that love is supposed to feel like a sugar rush of instant gratification, that’s what your brain will seek. To your brain, failure is not getting that rush.
Tune in today to find out why I much prefer the slow burn over the instant gratification of a dopamine hit. Delayed satisfaction doesn’t sound appealing to the brain, especially when it’s used to feeling anxiety in love. I’m sharing what I learned about my brain in past relationships and what happened when I channeled my time into things that gave me delayed gratification. I want you to consider what would happen if you channeled the time you spend finding that dopamine hit in love into pursuing whatever else lights you up. That’s what I did, and renegades, it’s been my best love affair yet.
What You Will Discover:
- Why “fail” is my second favorite F word.
- The different phases I’ve experienced in dating.
- Why we might think there’s something wrong with calm, consistent love.
- Why the brain will always choose instant gratification.
- How dopamine is the chemical of “more,” but not morality.
- How to use dopamine to fuel your plans and actions.
- The Molecule of More by Daniel Z. Lieberman
- Ep #38: Addicted to Love
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